【Quick Wear】My Years as a Mother-in-law

Chapter 194 The Queen Mother who picked up the bargain is very upset 40

I wonder how the emperor will deal with these nobles?

Nanny Yue said, "Master, Miss Limei is a concubine of a merchant family. She is very proud and might have some bad intentions."

"She left the paper mill as soon as she decided to. We have enough people now, and she's not irreplaceable."

"That's right. The master gave them a chance. If they don't know how to cherish it, they'd be ungrateful. Think about it: women in the past were married at sixteen, confined to the inner chambers and without freedom. Women from wealthy families had to report to their elders before going out, or go out with their husbands. If they were offended by other men while they were away, they would have no choice but to die..."

"The Master changed the laws and wrote many laws that were more lenient towards women. This was groundbreaking."

Xiao Ruyi poured Yun Xi a cup of tea and joined the group chat.

"Little Ruyi has also learned to be pedantic."

Yun Xi took the water, took a sip, and teased Xiao Ruyi.

Little Ruyi blushed and said, "Master, although I am confused, I can still tell good from bad. If I hadn't combed my hair and stayed here, I would have left the palace and married, serving my husband every day, handling household chores, and having children. I might even have a difficult birth. And I can imagine that my husband's family would definitely ask me to work overtime embroidering and making clothes to earn money and build connections for the family."

Nanny Yue also looked relieved. "Little Ruyi is really smart. Qingyun is not as good as you. What's the good of getting married? Which girl doesn't work like a slave in her husband's family? How many can be happy? In poor families, you are expected to give birth to sons and be hardworking. In wealthy families, you have to be generous and pay your respects to your mother-in-law every day and set rules. Otherwise, you are considered a lazy woman."

Yun Xi agreed wholeheartedly. Why wouldn't she get married or date in modern times? Because there were no benefits. On the one hand, her sexual needs were very low, and she was addicted to the internet, so she really didn't have time for a relationship or marriage. On the other hand, married life wouldn't be any more comfortable than being single.

My good friend Zhi Xing has no shortage of money and a good personality, so why doesn't she get married but chooses to be single and have children? This is also the reason. She has been on many blind dates with many men before, but she has encountered too many weird ones and has become desperate about marriage.

And according to Yun Xi's observation, not many of her female colleagues, classmates, and friends can find happiness in their marriages. Before marriage, they only worry about how to get a promotion and a raise, what bag to buy, what to eat for dinner, where to go on weekends, etc. After marriage, there are too many things to consider, such as social interactions, children's education, and the trivialities of marriage...

The most important thing is that she can't understand that being a housewife is a shameful thing in the eyes of everyone. This is what she can't understand the most!

Several of my friends had two or more children after marriage and were unable to balance work and job responsibilities, so they focused on being housewives. Within a few years, they noticed that they had become somewhat humble. They were such proud people before, but they had become humble! It's terrible!

Why, exactly, does a woman have to balance family and career? Why is being a housewife frowned upon? This is a stereotype, a definition society has placed on women. Too many people have been hurt by this stereotype. It's a form of invisible PUA!

If you can balance your career and family, you will be praised and admired. But if you can't, you are incompetent or stupid?

Just because housewives don't contribute directly to society, should they be treated this way? By taking good care of the home, husbands can focus on their work and create value for society. And by raising children well, doesn't the value they create for society when they grow up also come from the housewife?

Even if a housewife is lazy at home all day, if her children grow up and work, that is still her creative value. How can you ridicule and suppress her without any scruples? I don't understand.

Many men view women as being proud of their ability to bear children. Male colleagues might ask, "It's not a woman who can bear children, so why be so proud?" But isn't it something to be proud of? Having children is inherently important.

Men are proud of their strength and physical superiority. They can be proud of it, so why can't women be proud of it? Sometimes she is really annoyed by the ideas of her male colleagues.

Men, because they are physically fitter, can get better jobs and earn more money. However, women, who can bear children, have no real advantage. When looking for a job, if they hear you're planning to get married and have children, they'll immediately reject you. Even repeated assurances that it won't affect your job are useless. This alone is bad enough, and you're ridiculed on top of that...

I still remember being forced by my family to go on blind dates. Yun Xi told her parents that she couldn't focus on work after getting married and having children. Her family actually said that she could still work after getting married, and that she could rest and then work after having children...

She was stunned. Why? Marriage not only didn't make her life easier, it made her life even harder. What's more, the child she gave birth to would have her husband's surname, not Yun's. Yet, she was being so devoted, talking about maternal love. She could live without it, okay? Don't use it to hold her hostage.

There is also the issue of betrothal gifts and so on.

It's hard to say. When she was studying, the goal of the outstanding women around her was to go to a good university and study abroad, preferably to stay abroad. When she started working, she found that many people around her didn't want to get married. Is this good for the country? Obviously not.

Men who cannot find wives will look for wives in Africa and Southeast Asia. To be honest, the women from those places have very low cognitive and cultural levels, which may not be a good thing for a family. The children born there will have to work hard to keep up with the times.

"Your Majesty, what are you thinking of?"

Yun Xi frowned, "I remember that in the previous dynasty, officials' salaries could be collected by their wives?"

"It's like this. Initially, if an official was posted in another province, his wife would receive his salary. Later, it gradually developed to the point where wives were allowed to collect their salaries without telling their husbands. Women in the Song Dynasty had a relatively high status. For example, before you changed the law, the court explicitly prohibited women from entering temples to worship and enjoying property and inheritance rights. However, the Song Dynasty almost never enacted laws and regulations that restricted women's rights and freedoms."

Yun Xi nodded. "That's true. I remember that in the Song Dynasty, after a woman married into her husband's family, she had equal inheritance rights with her husband. After her parents-in-law passed away, the estate became the couple's joint property, and the woman could get half. If the husband couldn't support the family, the wife's quality of life was not guaranteed, or she was raped and abused by relatives of the husband's family, she had the right to file for divorce and remarry."

Little Ruyi said longingly, "Yes, it's much better than now. Nowadays, women have no rights protection at all when they get married. If they are raped or humiliated, they will only die. It is impossible to remarry."